90% is out of your control... how do you control the 10%?
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Life for the most part is out of our control, but 10% is. How we manage this 10% will completely change how the 90% affects us, and if it flows with or against our true desires.
Self-control is the ability to regulate and alter your responses in order to avoid undesirable behaviors, increase desirable ones, and achieve long-term goals. Research has shown that possessing self-control can be important for health and well-being.
Due to many people lacking self-control, responsibility, or motivation to maintain forward growth, many people need a coach to regularly check-in and ask the right motivating questions. We as coaches have the correct knowledge, tools and experience to ensure you stay motivated and inspired for achieving your biggest goals. Coaches maintain consistency by regularly checking-in on your progress with work sheets, tracking of your numbers and always being a listening ear that can help you overcome any hardship. It is a lot easier to achieve your goals with someone guiding and routing you on!
When we become more conscious in our mindset and lifestyle, we will be able to manage our thoughts, emotions, and actions with better judgement and results. This is because we have a deeper control of our mind, with a higher sense of self-awareness. This heightened sense of awareness allows for better accountability and responsibility of our life choices.
Many people get caught into blaming others for their shortcomings, due to allowing external factors to effect their self-control. This pushes them off track and prevents desired results from being achieved. When your focus is not in the right place, it will be very difficult to perform at your best capacity. Becoming more conscious, and in control of your mind, body & soul, your outlook towards life changes, and you will seize more opportunities comfortably. Less pressure will be placed on yourself, with improved self-confidence and better performance.
10%.... Literally, thoughts, emotions, voice, actions. That's it... So, why do we get too focused on so much out of our control? Well, because we're conditioned too... Society, parents, school, social media the list goes on.... All of them lead us down a path that creates improper mindset control, because the are trying to control our minds. Society sets a standard of what is successful, attractive, necessity. Parents set examples and teach their values and beliefs. Schools delivers a one way or the highway system curriculum approach, that dictates what is "mandatory" knowledge. Social media sets trends and movements that sway peoples' self-esteem in all different directions based off attraction and celebrity level.
When we are growing in an environment such as North America or any 1st world Nation. These variables make a big effect on our mindsets and overall conditioning. But, as we grow and develop in age and wisdom, it becomes a choice to maintain following the wrong path, or take a step back and level up our way of thinking.
Life has 2 options:
internal locus of control: self accountability for good or bad
external locus of control: blaming outside influences for good or bad
We either see everything as a repercussion of our self or we blame outside aspects for the answer to everything. Wouldn't it make more sense to take the first option? Sometimes it's not that easy. You see, many people are living behind a vail, that lulls them away from being in the moment and being conscious. Unfortunately, some call it ignorance, but lack of education vs. wisdom is two different things.
Narcissism is another issue with the first world nations, as the competitive concrete jungle has created this sickness. This is the definition of external locus of control... This mindset is very selfish, and aggressive at defending their position. They lack empathy and compassion for others. Plus, they can not take criticism without pointing fingers at someone else or taking ownership of their actions. This culture is definitely spreading into the world and is a big part of why REAL self-control is very difficult for many people to achieve.
The importance of gratitude and humbleness go much further than we expect. Switching the mindset to this thought process, creates a completely different outlook that leads to an improved vision on life and our daily routine. When we see life with a positive outlook, our ability to control our 10% becomes easier. We are flowing with everything and making the best of what we can. We see everything around us with more grace and vibrance, that uplifts our internal energy and mood. This butterfly effect creates a connection back to our self-control which then dictates our results and success. If we are more in the present moment, then we will put forth a better performance as we are completely focused. Coming back to reality is what will be the best step for most people to take back control of their life.
This step towards consciousness starts the process of constantly searching to improve and grow, which leads to improved self-awareness and self-control. The truth sometimes hurts, but it's better to go through a little pain for needed growth and be satisfied with the success that comes from it. Nothing worse than regret when it comes to life. So managing our self-control will help reduce the chance of it ever happening.
Self-control is also important for maintaining healthy behaviors. What you eat for the day, how often you work out, and whether you go to the doctor on a regular basis are all decisions that impact your levels of self-control and have the potential to affect your health.
Researchers have found that self-control can have a number of potential influences on our health and well-being. Ranging from: lowered obesity, lowered chances of getting into drugs & alcohol during high school, lower levels of regret, and while it is clear that self-control is critical for maintaining healthy behavior, some experts believe that overemphasizing the importance of willpower can be damaging as well. It's all about a healthy balance between strict and relaxed.
15 Effective Ways to Level Up Your Self-Control:
1) Goal setting
Creating a specific macro (big) goal is essential for maintaining forward direction and staying in a positive mindset. Setting micro (small) goals for this month, week or day, are key to allow for small wins that boost your confidence and psyche in believing the big goals is getting closer. When you have goals, you feel more inclined to stay on track as it's an incentive to stay disciplined. A key tip is to stay focused on one goal at a time, so you won't feel overwhelmed or get side tracked by other tasks.
2) Create motivation
Ensure the goals you're setting have deep value to you. The more you want it, the more you're willing to sacrifice and put forth the effort needed to achieve it. If the motivation towards a goal is zero, that success becomes very unlikely. Create a journal that consistently reminds you of why your goals are important to you, and find some great quotes or affirmations that help give you an extra boost in times of fatigue or lowered motivation.
3) A Can-do attitude
The foundation for self-control, is taking responsibility for our actions and understanding we are free to anything we choose. Research shows that people function better and are more able to deal with stress when they feel that they are in control. If you believe that things are beyond your control and they probably will be. "Those who say they can, and those who say they can't, are both usually right"
An important aspect of motivation is your self-perceived ability to achieve it. You won’t build up much motivation for change if you believe it is impossible. In the face of difficulties, people lacking self-confidence may easily develop doubts about their own ability to accomplish the task at hand, whereas those with strong beliefs are more likely to continue their efforts to master a task when difficulties arise. Believe it to achieve it. Start with small steps and know nothing great will come easy. Stay with the process and enjoy the journey.
5) Avoid temptations
Avoiding temptation requires anticipating situations where unwanted desires might emerge and it's important to take proactive steps to ensure that one doesn’t fall victim to the problematic desire. For example, avoiding exposure to tempting situations can include making unhealthy foods less visible, such as keeping one’s home free of unhealthy but tempting foods. As well, keeping alcohol locked up and difficult to get too. Anything you are trying to avoid, create road blocks that will be a warning for you to remember your getting too close to an undesired result emerging.
Willpower represents strength or a psychological energy that a person uses to resist other temptations in order to work toward their goal. Self-control depends on this limited resource that operates like strength or energy. People consume this resource when they exert self-control. Thus, having only one goal makes self-control more successful than when people have two or more conflicting goals. Focus on one thing and do it to the best of your ability.
7) Create periods of relaxation
A key component of self-control is not over whelming ones self. Taking incremented breaks or recovery days as needed is important to maintain a positive psyche. We can not always be 100% on the gas, or else we will get burned out very quickly and it will definitely create an incentive to fall back into old habits or temptations. Mental strength is highest when we are energized and full of willpower, if we are low on mental fortitude, then putting forth the effective effort for whatever task at hand will be affected in a negative way. Motivation and productivity are at it's lowest if we get burned out. So take regular breaks to detox your mind and pace your progress.
8) Have a team to keep you accountable
It is a lot easier when you have a support team to keep you motivated or reminded of why you're pursuing a specific desire. As well, it is always better to celebrates the wins with others as it feels more gratifying when others share your glory. Just like having a coach, having 1 or a few close sounds individuals to keep you on track and pat you on the back when hard work is put in, are all apart of maintaining a positive mindset. Plus, it will be an incentive to stay disciplined and work harder as you feel others are apart of your success or failure.
9) Plan, prepare, prioritize
Without some form of plan and preparation, everything will be spontaneous and lacking efficiency or productivity. Prioritizing what is most important is necessity for steady forward progress, and is crucial for maximizing your routine. Having a well sought out plan gives opportunity for proper adjustments and brain storming to reach the best ideas. As well, effective preparation sets you up for success since you're more equipped to handle the challenges or tasks desired to complete. Confidence is such a vital part is self-control, the more we plan, prepare and prioritize, the more our confidence and our actions fall in line.